is a weird question although I'm sure you've heard that line
before. I'm sorry back to my question. I'm not complaining at
all but when me and my boyfriend have intercourse I can go on
for what seems like forever. I have had multiple orgasms (one
time I counted and it was 11) is there anything that could evolve
of this? I mean is it safe to have so many orgasms?
Being multiple orgasmic is not
a problem. As long as you are not TOO exhausted from the
experience, or as long as your vagina does not get sore from the
prolonged sexual act, you don't have reason to worry. Contrary
to the common belief, only some women are capable of multiple
orgasms and you appear to be one among them. Enjoy it.
am male, 29, married recently (2 months back) and my wife is
23. My wife had checked with a doctor before marriage of her
breasts development etc. and the doctor confirmed that she can
have been having intercourse everyday (except periods day) and
at certain times, after ejaculation the sperm enters without
problems. She experiences pain initially but once my penis enters
fully, she feels no pain. Once I ejaculate, she says that she
is feeling sperm spilling inside her vagina.
note that most of the times (75%), after ejaculation the sperm
comes out in full. We both are totally upset and worried of
this recurring phenomenon. Please advise me what would be best
days so that she can conceive quickly.
advise me what would be best days so that she can conceive quickly
(both are healthy), that is, how can I find out which day is
her ovulating day (so that intercourse during that day or those
days would make us parents soon)?
is natural for semen to seep out of vagina, a little while after
intercourse. NEVER does it remain in the vagina or go into the
uterus. Only the spermatozoa present in the semen swim their
way upwards into the uterus - that too, during a certain period,
called the fertile period.
a woman who menstruates regularly, that is, every 28-32 days,
the fertile period falls somewhere between 12th day and 18th
day. Intercourse during this period maximizes the chances of
conception. The optimum frequency of sex during this period
should be once every other day according some fertility experts
because this much of gap gives the spermatozoa enough time to
undergo changes that make them capable of fertilizing.
all other things are favorable, this should work. Any way, being
anxious to conceive itself can delay pregnancy, so better relax
and enjoy your sex life. If you do not conceive after 9-12 months
of trying, do consult a fertility specialist.
a 30year old male working in a good position in reputed firm
in Bangalore. Talks of my marriage are going on and plans for
the d day is somewhere around the month of September this year.
thankful to you for coming up with this e-mail provision as
it does help people like me to come out with my problems with
a fair degree of privacy.
penis is bent at a very strong angle to the left. The bend is
so much that, whenever i have an erection it touches my body
on the left (place where my left leg starts from the lower abdomen).
have discussed about this with some close friends and they say
that a little tilt is normal but for a tilt like mine, i should
seek expert advice. I did not have this problem from my child
hood when i use to keep the position of my penis pointed up
in my Underwear. Later I started keeping it pointed downwards
and I do not know if that has been the reason for this state.
I'm having this problem since more than 10 years now and do
not know what to do about it. Since an year or so I have been
wearing boxer shorts as underwear thinking that it might help
me. But there is no improvement.
a very worried man today. Please advice me and this situation
acute angle at which your ERECT penis bends is certainly not
the usual bend. It develops because of unequal growth of tissues
on either side, and can be corrected surgically by an andrologist.
Consult one in your city.
you are able to hold the erect penis (with your hand) in the
normal angle without experiencing pain at the base of the penis,
if you are able to masturbate without pain at the base of the
penis, it should not be a problem for you to achieve penetration.
Anyway - irrespective of whether you have a bent penis or straight
penis - you usually need your wife's assistance to penetrate
her vagina. Then why worry?
the same, please have a urological examination, so you will
be either reassured or offered treatment, after proper examination.
am in a huge rut. I need to know this... Recently, a friend
of mine had sex with me. Or at least tried to. While I don't
know if he broke my hymen (or whatever it's called), I'm not
completely sure and am very confused. Anyway, he thinks he may
have ejaculated inside of me even though he started when he
had his penis wrapped in a towel and his shirt on top of me.
Do you think my chances for pregnancy are great? I'm fourteen
(he's fifteen) and we didn't use a condom. I had my period a
couple weeks ago. I really do not want to be pregnant and need
help fast. If I do turn out to be, however, I think I'll get
an abortion. Anyway, I really need your help.
chances of pregnancy are high if he has ejaculated inside you
and your ovaries have released egg around that day. Towels do
not offer any protection; Condoms do!
get tested after a week.
encourage you to follow safer sex guidelines, the safest means
being sexual abstinence till wedding day. At this tender age,
the consequences of sex can be disastrous for physical and psychological
is the average / normal time a male lasts during an intercourse.
less than a minute up to 10 minutes on an average from the time
of penetration till ejaculation. Some men take much longer time
and some ejacultae even before penetration. For the same person,
it varies from one episode of sex to the other. It also varies
with age, with the time elapsed since previous intercourse,
with the partner, with the medication he may be taking, with
his anxiety levels and the like.
wearing tight underwears when Young and later on, have any thing
to do with the growth i.e the length and width of the penis.
no. But it may lead to a decrease in semen quality.
How can one achieve a full hard on and how much time it lasts.
full hard erection needs an anatomically flawless internal and
external geintalia and blood vessels and nerves that supply
it, normal hormone levels, normal psychological makeup, congenial
sorroundings AND sufficient sexual stimulation - physical and/or
erection lasts only as long as the sexual stimulation exists,
and the fullness and hardness (rigidity) of the penis depends
on the strength of such stimulus. The more you are sexually
excited (and mentally undistracted) the stronger the erection.
which book in English will have the answers to such and more
questions kindly suggest some names. I am staying in Bombay.
here to view a list of some such books. I recommend Dr.
Prakash Kothari's and Dr. Vithal
Prabhu's books to begin with. Dr. June Reinisch's book The
Kinsey Institute New Report on Sexuality is an excellent
source of a wide range of information presented in question-answer
form. You should be able to get all three books in Bombay.
am 27 yr old male going to marry next month my problem is that
I am attracted to male and have sex with male partners. I never
have sex with girl but I have interest in girls. I am affraid
will I be able to satisfy my wife. Please advise me.
you say you have interest in girls though you have not participated
in sex with any, we feel you will be able to have and enjoy
sexual relations with women. Some men have this bisexual orientation,
meaning that they are capable of being attracted to and enjoying
sex with either gender.
need to consult a sex counsellor/therapist to discuss your apprehensions
and sort out your feelings, before marriage.
am asking a solution for a realy different problem.
i and my gf enjoyed unprotected sex ( mistakenly, b'coz while
changing position my condom fell outside ) on sunday 21/4/2002.
as a science student i known something about safe period, but
i need your expert advice.
her period was ove on thursday 18/4/2002 only. so now,
1. what r the chances of the pregnancy?.
2. when should we test that?.
3. Till what date can we wait.?
4. what are the methods availabel to us if she get positive
Plz reply me as soon as possible.coz we are very much worried
about thi matter.
plz help us and beleive us it was really a mistake. we always
enjoy only safe sex.
chances of pregnancy are almost negligible.
sensitive pregnancy test can be performed one week before her
next due date of menses. A routine pregnancy test can be done
as soon as the period is missed.
pregnancy occurs (unlikely in your case), medical termination
of pregnancy through a qualified doctor is the only safe solution.
to the safe sex, the safest sex is NO SEX till marriage, because
any other method involves SOME risk as you have experienced.
We do not want to appear preaching our clients but we are concerned
i have a very tight foreskin, it will hardly come back when
i pull it back manually and it does not come more than half
of the front part when i have an erection. i could make out
that circumcision is a solution for this. but, another problem
is that, when i pull my foreskin back somehow, my penis is so
tender that i cant even touch that. it pains as if it is touching
some bare eye-ball, meaning which, my penis is exremely sensitive
when i pull the skin back. is this normal in people who have
the foreskin problem?? if not, what is the remedy?
i am also being hooked up with an issue called marriage in may
be 6 more months. please give me proper advice, or my anxiety
will kill me one day!!
should solve your problem. Get done.
tips of the penises covered with foreskin are sensitive to touch
.. some times very sensitive as you described. After circumcision
this sensation will persist for some time and gradually the
glans (head of the penis) gets used to touch and contact of
cloth. The discomfort will last only a few days after surgery.
Hello, im in need of answers. These are my questions:
Is masturbation medically wrong? I have never done it and never
would consider doing it, is that wrong?
Neither maturbation nor not doing it are wrong / harmful.
My penis size isnt to great and i need to know of techniques
besides sugery to improve my size. Could you tell me of the
There are no nonsurgical techniques to increase the penis dimensions
and the surgical techniques are unsatisfactory with short lived
results. The best solution is to accept the reality.
My sex life hasnt been so great lately and i need something
to make me good in bed again, any comments?
Consult a sex counsellor / therapist.
am pregnantand my husband comes home after drinking
and we have sex. Is this safe for my unborn child?
my best knowledge no medical problems are caused to the fetus
by a drunken husband having sex with a pregnant wife.
an intoxicated person can do physical harm, albeit unintentionally
and subject to degree of intoxication, due to poor control over
his body and its movements.
i am a 29 y/o male
i used to masturbate to release my tension since i was 15 years
about 5 times a week or so , those years i felt myself to be
very strong sextually , it is about a year and a half i have
married , at the begining i had no problem having sex with my
wife but now i feel it takes too much time my penis get hard
,and even sometimes doesn't get too stiff ,and sometimes i ejaculate
without complete erection, it seems i have two problems, first
sexually i got weak and second pre ejaculation (ejaculation
before my penis erected completely),
guide me how can i overcome these two problems especially my
penis stiffness, because i feel it affects my wife pleasure
need to consult a sex therapist, who will take your sexual history,
order some tests and determine what possibly are the causes
of your problem. Management will depend on the cause(s).
determine if you are able to get strong erections at least occasionally
or during sleep or on waking up early in the morning. If YES
is your reply, it is most likely that your sexual mechanisms
are intact, though a negative reply does not strictly mean that
you have a problem.
the first case, that is, if you have strong erections occasionally,
look at your intercourse frequency. Reduce it and see if your
erections improve. Also ask yourself if you are participating
in sex willingly and enthusiastically or out of compulsion to
fulfill your partner's needs. You may also be under stress from
day to day burdens, financial matters, fatigue from illness
ejaculation (particularly after a person has had reasonable
ejaculatory control previously) and semi-rigid erections are
sometimes an early sign of underlying diabetes...
the list goes on endless, I do not want to unnecessarily frighten
you. A sex therapist with a medical background can easily determine
the causes and suggest appropriate treatment.
assured that these days, erectile dysfunction (problem with
erection) is not at all difficult to treat.
Let me introduce myself, I am a male from Singapore. I have
some problems pertaining to sex, but I am too shy person to
ask anyone a question.I am 25/26 but not looking of this age.
seem just like a teen. The problem which is gradually ending
my life is the problem of masturbation. I have been masturbating
3/4 times a week on a regular basis for almost 10/11 years,
and this habit melted my body. I look like a skeleton not an
alive young person. I searched the net for advice on this particular
topic and fortunately I found your site. Thanks for launching
such a useful site.
also found in your site that masturbation is harmless habit
but this habit destroyed me. Could you please explain in which
mean it is useful? as well as please help me in leaving this
did my best but now it is almost 10/11 years young habit.
How can I leave this habit and return back to my normal life?
per se is not a problem at all. It has no known medical hazards
to date. Three to 4 times per week is not a high frequency at
all, as I have known boys who have masturbated 10-14 times a
week for several years on end and yet healthy and leading normal
you have become thin like a skeleton it must be having some
other strong reason. For example respiratory infections, diabetes
in some individuals, tumors and so on. It would be wiser to
get a thorough medical check up and take appropriate treatment,
if necessary. Sometimes, strong fears about masturbation alone
can make you sick and therefore lose weight.
have also a problem of drops. Urinary drops continue to come
for an hour or so whenever I urinate. One of my friends has
told me that this is because of huge number of masturbation.
(drops of urine coming for several minutes after urination)
is not a consequence of masturbation. Consult a urologist. Prostate
enlargement or problems with the bladder, among other things,
can cause this. The urologist will also see if this has something
to do with your skin-and bones appearance.
I see a porn movie or naked pics my penis secretes semens &
methinks this is also caused by masturbation.
shows the extent to which the masturbation issue is bothering
your head. Please get rid of this feeling. Millions across the
globe masturbate without any harmful effects.
your penis produces when you are sexually excited, is not semen,
but a few drops of lubricating fluid. It is a sign of sexual
excitement somewhat similar to mouthwatering when delicious
food preparations are seen, smelled or thought about. But remember
that this fluid is not a must and there are many who do not
have another problem of quick ejaculation. When I masturbate
the maximum time of ejaculation is just 2 minutes. I can't enjoy
sex more than two minutes.
problem after another! First get clear of the problems above.
Then you could sort out others.
are methods to train yourself to prolong masturbation and delay
ejaculation. So also you can learn control over ejaculation.
There are self-help books like Dr. Helen Kaplan's "PE:
How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation", or Bernie Gilbergeld's
"The New Male Sexuality". They are wondeful books
which address all your concerns about premature ejaculation.
the end I request you that please give the best ever advice
which help me leaving this bad habit and I could control other
problems mentioned above.
you are still not comfortable with masturbation, visit a nearby
sex counsellor and discuss your concerns with him/her (or) stop
masturbating, and try to get married and enter into a sexual
relationship, if your circumstances permit it.
foreskin or prepuce is removed at the place where it is normally
attached to. Over the years it got removed after a slight cut.
Now during intercourse, it gets stuck at the place where it
is normally attached to. This causes great discomfort during
intercourse.It pains while penetrating. I am going to get married.There
is no problem while using a condom.Will circumsicion help or
some surgery to get it attached at the place where it is normally
attached to. Please advice.
certainly helps to consult a surgeon. Get examined. Surgical
excision of that piece of skin should solve your problem. In
any case it's a minor problem.
have heard there is a very famous Indian sex book call "pamasucha"
. I think I spelled wrong. It was about teach people how to
make love and how to arouse the other party. It is an ancient
Please let me know if you have knowledge of it.
I will be very much appreciated.
closest match to the treatise you refer to is 'Kama Sutra'
(pronounced 'kaama sootra') by Vatsyayana. Richard Burton's
translation is the most respected English version, available
through some big book stores.
is an online version available for free download.
may procure another good translation by SC Upadhyaaya from the
Indian publisher - DB Taraporevala Sons and Co. P. Ltd., Dadabhai
Naoroji Street, Mumbai 400001, India.
Ranga' by Kalyaana Malla is another ancient Indian Work, which
you may be able to locate on the web.